Mistakes couples make during the planning process
We make it a point to receive feedback from our brides, after their wedding day. Here are some of the regrets.
Not setting budget priorities at the start
Setting your budget priorities at the very beginning keeps you on track throughout your entire wedding planning journey. It allocates your budget to what is important to you. Today there are so many choices when it comes to your wedding, you have to make sure you spend the most money on the items you truly want first, then get any luxuries with what is left over in your budget at the end. Be smart, set a clear budget before you start spending.
Choosing suppliers based on the "cheapest quote"
We have all heard the phrase "you get what you pay for" and wedding suppliers are no different. But remember, choosing suppliers isn't like shopping around to get the cheapest price for a specific make and model of a new car, phone or a small appliance. Most wedding suppliers are individuals with very different styles, personalities and integrity. Do your research: Get recommendations, meet your suppliers, have them show you their work in person. Choose the best supplier for you, at the price you can afford.
Doing all your own wedding decorations
Venue decorations are fun, you get to be creative and design beautiful things. Sure, on paper doing it by yourself might seem like a great way to cut costs, but if you really think about it, do you really want to be putting on chair covers, cutting fresh flowers for centerpieces and making you and your family rush around like crazy people? Short answer: NO. You want to be getting pampered, relaxing and enjoying the happiest day of your life. Venue dressing is harder than you think. Leave it to the pros.
Arriving late for your own wedding
Get up early and begin your day on schedule. Make it a point to be on time. The bride, groom and other members of the bridal party need to be on schedule, long before the ceremony is to begin.
Selecting the wrong venue
First, make sure the location you’re booking is the appropriate size for your event and isn’t painfully far from your ceremony location. More importantly, make sure the venue can supply certain elements you’ll need, like tables, chairs and maybe even table linens. You don’t want to book your event and find out you have to source every single item for your event on your own unless you are planning for a high amount of customization and have found a vendor that can accommodate.
Deciding too late
As soon as you set your date, start getting a feel for color schemes, venues and the vendors you’d like to book for your event. Whatever you do, start making decisions as early as possible. Just as your calendar will quickly fill up, so will that of your desired caterer, cake baker, florist, and so on, so make your decisions promptly.
Not hiring a professional to help if you need it
There are women who are good at organization, dealing with high-pressure situations and making quick decisions. But some are not. Weddings are meant to be full of joy, happy memories and harmony. We hate to see brides stressed out over little things going wrong, or panicky because they have forgotten something or because they are being bombarded with questions when they just want to enjoy their special day. Keep calm and hire a wedding professional.
Mother Nature rules. A contingency plan is important in case of rain, strong winds or raging wildfires, as these could entirely change your wedding day. Unexpected events may be out of your hands, but you can still regain some control with a backup plan.
Leaving your guests in the dark
A well-informed guest is a happy guest. It’s also a sign of a thoughtful host. Triple-check your invitations for any unclear language, consider creating a wedding website, and print ceremony programs and dinner menus.
Neglecting the lists
Before the wedding, be sure to keep your DJ, photographer and videographer informed. Prepare a ‘shot list’ for your photographer so photos can be taken quickly and efficiently the day of. Be sure to give your DJ a full list of songs you want and don’t want to hear the day of your wedding. Lastly, give your caterer a list of foods that are off-limits and any dietary restrictions guests might have.
Saving the details for later
Leaving the little things until later is fine, but remember that those details add up quickly and turn into a larger job later on. Tying bows on water bottles, putting together favors, creating place cards and such, should not be left to the last minute. Calling your bridesmaids for an all hands on deck scramble session the night before your wedding will leave you stressed out.
Not enough organization
Between appointments with your florist, cake tastings, dress fittings and RSVP dates, it’s so easy to veer off track during the wedding planning process. Do yourself a huge favor and get on board with social media tools and create a comprehensive time line of important dates and deadlines from the get-go.
Making the seating chart too early
This is one element of your wedding day you actually want to leave until the last minute. Breakups, schedules and illnesses will affect your guest list attendees, so wait until a couple of weeks before your wedding to create your seating chart.
Ignoring the morning-of schedule
There are a ton of things to do the morning of your wedding day including breakfast, hair and makeup, exchanging of bridesmaid gifts, family photos and videographer interviews. Make sure you wake up early and stay organized the morning of your wedding day. You’ll be surprised how quickly things move.
Asking too few questions
It’s so important to ask potential vendors the right questions. Failing to do so can cost you some serious cash and lead to major headaches down the road. Along those lines, but sure to thoroughly read contracts and revise them if necessary.
Getting carried away
So many brides look back on their wedding and wish they had kept it from getting too out of control. A little stress throughout the wedding planning process is normal, but this day is supposed to be fun and happy, so take a breather and remember what’s truly important.
Forgetting your belongings
Before the big day, designate a parent or your MOH to gather your belongings at the end of the night. Leftover cake, the sign-in book, and gifts are all prime examples. It’s important to have someone you trust in charge. Often, wedding coordinators will assist with this - if you are fortunate enough to have one.